THE" CHEATER" IN LOVE

Can you love your spouse and still have an affair?

 The answer painfully is yes. As odd as it seems, you can love your spouse and still do something that hurts them that causes such trauma. How is that possible one asks?

The answer is because the “cheater” is not thinking about the person they care about, they selfishly are just thinking about themselves.

 For the other spouse who would never have an affair, it is hard for them to fathom how a person can love and yet hurt him/her. It is hard for that person to understand how you can love a person and not take their feelings into account. Although, I do believe when you are feeling “in love”  – that kind of love is less likely a time when even a person who is of the type to likely have an affair, may not. When meeting with couples who have been wounded by such a blast, time and time again, it is so confusing for the spouse who has been cheated on to imagine how their spouse could love and still have committed this act of adultery since it is such an unloving thing to do, to put it mildly.

Love is different for each person, and there are those of whom can love their spouse and still hurt that person deeply. Having great character, high moral standards, awareness of how your actions impact those around you, holding a philosophy of monogamy, choosing to be in control of one’s thoughts, feelings, and thus actions, thinking before acting – these are all in sync with not having an affair. Having an affair is a choice which is destructive and hurtful to more than just the spouse or significant other you cheated on. If there are kids involved it hurts them. And guess what – it wounds the marital bond.

Do you think otherwise, lets have your opinion in the comment section.