WHERE IS THE SPARK WE HAD WHEN WE STARTED?

"if you have to sneak to do it, lie to cover it up,

or delete it to avoid it being seen, then you 

shouldn't be doing it."

"Most people cheat because they are paying more 

attention to what they are missing rather than what

they have"

Ever has it been told that love doesn't guarantee the success of a relationship? it is equally an obvious fact that love cannot help you stick to one person all years round.
Cheating isn't always a product of not loving your partner, loving someone doesn't guarantee not falling in love with someone else.

What makes a relationship work out mostly is our HEAD not our HEART. It works out because of our emotional maturity, empathetic intelligence and self discipline because there will be a point in time when you will see more beautiful, handsome, romantic, intelligent, sexy, rich, curvy and God fearing people than the one you are in a relationship with.

in those times, whatsoever ounce of love you have will not help you; self control will help you, emotional intelligence will come to your rescue and commitment will keep you going. With those characteristics, no matter how you feel for someone else, the person you are committed to will rank first in your life.

To be factual do you think happily married people don't see better people than the ones they married? You think they don't feel funny sometimes? You think they don't catch feelings? Yes! they do!!!

Understanding that commitment is greater than feelings is the great weapon that destroys that impulse.
You can fall in love with anyone, but to build a relationship, it takes absolutely more than what attracted you to them and takes more than love.
We are too fond of loving when it is there, we are too fond of loving when it is convenient and sweet. But that can only last for just the first 3 - 6 months of the relationship. After then, you will realize that the feelings have dropped, it is now your responsibility to make it work not love's responsibility.

Relationships cannot be readymade. You have to build it and it is never always about love. It requires commitment and intelligence. On the long run in marriages, it is not just love that keeps them together forever, it is determination and commitment.

Everyone falls in love; it takes little or no effort to do that. But staying in love, building a relationship, only the strong and committed ones do that. That is why we must find that one person and commit to that one, discipline yourself and bridle your emotions.

Building a relationship requires hard work, it is like building a career, it is like pursuing a dream. It's always tough, at some point it will be so bitter but you can make it work by putting your heads together, you can scale through the trying time by being focus and committed.
The kind of love that attracts two people together is not the kind of love that will keep them together. Be emotionally strong and be self disciplined.